From deisenst@mail.coin.missouri.edu Sun Sep  7 07:29:39 1997
Date: Sun, 7 Sep 1997 07:20:42 -0500 (CDT)
From: "David D. Eisenstein" <deisenst@mail.coin.missouri.edu>
To: Dominic Lenk <br_dominic@priory.org>,
    "Cheryl L. Hill" <chill@tri-lakes.net>
Subject: Does anyone know how ...


 1) to counsel others not to take stock of their fears
    regarding onesself?   
 2) to know that giving such counsel would be the best
    for them or for onesself?  
 3) to let fear of others or of relating to others in
    roles that one is not accustomed to ... be allayed?

My online AKJV Bible indicates 189 instances of the word
"afraid" and 385 instances of the word "fear."

Regarding the points above, stated differently:

  1) How do you tell others?
     "Please don't be afraid of me; I'm not meant to be
     afraid of."
  2) How do I know in my heart?
     that trying to convince others who fear or
     dislike me to not fear, dislike, or avoid me--  How
     do I know convincing others not to fear me is the
     best thing for them, rather than just being the
     best thing for my ego?

     How do I know in my heart?
     that trying to change others'
     fear or dislike of me 
     is appropriate use of my energies?

     How do I know that others do not ENJOY fearing or
     hating somebody ... and for me to change that in them
     would not take away the only joy they know?


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My Bible says Moses counseled his people, "Be strong and
of good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them:  for 
the LORD thy God, he [it is] that doth go with thee; he
will not fail thee, nor forsake thee." (Deut. 31:3)

Then it tells me that Joshua counseled, perhaps following
Moses' example:  "Have I not commanded thee?  Be strong and
of good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed:
for the LORD they God [is] with thee whithersoever thou
goest."  (Joshua 1:9)

It also tells me that "Saul was afraid of David, because the
LORD was with him, and was departed from Saul." (1 Samuel 18:12)

   3) How can I lead others in project(s) when fear of failure
      vastly overruns anticipation of success?

"Terrors shall make him afraid on every side, and shall drive him
to his feet."   (Job 18:11)  "... Surely such [are] the dwellings
of the wicked, and this [is] the place [of him that] knoweth not
God."  (Job 18:21).

				-David